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Message for Fathers

Fathers, you are vital to your daughter’s understanding of herself and her mental and physical health!

You are necessary in assisting your daughter to become as healthy as possible. Your daughter needs you in a way that no one else can fill. You have such deep influence upon your daughter you must be as conscious as possible about how you are with her and what you say to her. You create her first understanding of herself in relation to all the men that will ever be in her life.  This is an awesome responsibility.

Confused?

Many fathers become confused when their daughters begin to go through puberty. When you little girl begins to grow breasts and begins to look and act more like a woman you may not feel entirely comfortable. You may ask yourself, “Should I still hug her?”, or “What do I do with my awkward feelings”? She may push you away or you may put a wall up to hide feelings you aren’t even conscious of.

Loving Boundaries

You daughter needs more privacy when her body is changing. She probably feels awkward about those significant changes too. Be careful to keep good boundaries with her but don’t go away totally. Talk with her, hug her, and tell her you love her and that you know that she is normal and you think it is good that she is growing up.

In Passages into Womanhood: Empowering Girls to Love Themselves, the story, What About Dad, explains what happened between Bethany and her dad when Bethany went through puberty. This is a good story for fathers to read.

How do you Interact with Her Mother?

How you treat your daughter’s mother will teach your daughter how to expect men to treat her. She learns more by your example; more than with your words. Always interact with your daughter and her mother with love and respect.

Are you raising your daughter alone?

If your daughter’s mother is not in the picture and you are a single father, you are even more important to your daughter and have a big job ahead. You may want to get some help from a female relative or friend.

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Do You Have a Son?

Teach your son to respect women and treat them with care and as equals. Do this by your example. Your son may become the father of your lovely granddaughter some day. You will want that granddaughter to be her own powerful girl and grow to become a powerful woman who loves herself.

Questions, Concerns, Comments?

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Blessings, Pam